Big Brothers Big Sisters of Connecticut offers children a one-to-one, long-term friendship with an adult mentor. Bigs serve as role models, supporting young people’s mental health.

FAQS

YOUR BIG QUESTIONS, ANSWERED

We’re here to help you every step of the way. View a full list of commonly asked questions to get the information you need.

What are the basic requirements for becoming a Big?
Bigs must be 21 years of age or older, have a valid driver’s license and be willing to commit to a long-term volunteer experience of at least one year, although most friendships last much longer. Once matched, Bigs are expected to see their Littles for a few hours per month.

Who are the Bigs in the program?
Our Bigs come from diverse backgrounds, just like our Littles. They are regular people, just like you. You don’t need any special degrees or job skills. You just have to want to positively impact a young person in need.

What support is provided to Big/Little relationships?
Once you are matched with your Little, your Match Support Specialist will be in regular contact with you to provide assistance and give feedback. If you are unsure about how to handle a situation, your Match Support Specialist is here to help. They’ll help you with ideas for activities, guidance for handling difficult situations, and feedback on how you are making a difference.

How do I choose my Little?
This is what’s really unique about BBBS. We don’t just select the next child on our list and match them with a Big. Each Big and Little are matched based on compatibility and proximity to each other, but ultimately, Bigs and Littles choose each other. Enrollment Specialists get to know each Big, parent and child who enroll in the program. They learn their interests, hobbies, what they are looking for in a match and much more. Once a volunteer is accepted into the program, an Enrollment Specialist will begin searching for a few Littles they think would make a good match. They will then send a profile of a Little who they believe is a great match for you. From there, you ultimately decide if they will be the best fit.

Do the parents and children want to be a part of the program?
Parents who enroll their children in the BBBS program want the best for their children. Many say that their children’s Bigs are able to talk to them about issues that are difficult for a parent to address. They also say introducing a Big into their child’s life has not only changed their son/daughter’s life, but it’s impacted the entire family. BBBS only enrolls children who want and need the program and whose parents want them to be in it. 100% of those enrolled are ready and excited about being matched.

When can I see my Little?
As a Big/Little team, you decide together what you want to do and then your Little gets approval from his or her parent. We recommend that you keep a consistent schedule of outings and get together on a regular basis. Your local agency will provide more guidance on this. The outings will also depend on the comfort level of your Little’s parents, your Little, and you.

What do I do with my Little?
Anything you like! Activities are up to each match to schedule and participate in. Common activities include going to get ice cream, going to a movie, playing catch or a video game, attending a sporting event or concert, or running errands. BBBS also hosts great match activities and parties that all Bigs/Littles are invited to. Our Bigs are also occasionally given free tickets to events that Match Support Specialists are able to distribute to matches.

How much money should I spend?
We don’t encourage spending a lot of money on your outings because the goal of the relationship is to help your Little see the world through a different lens so you can inspire your Little. If you are going to spend money, we encourage you to seek out low-cost activities, like playing a game together. Our agencies offer donor-supported group activities that are a great way to meet other Bigs and Littles. As a Big, you may also receive notices for free tickets to cultural and sports activities for you both to enjoy.

Can I bring my spouse, a friend, or a family member on outings?
In the beginning, it’s most important for you and your Little to get to know each other on a one-to-one basis. However, over time, it’s also valuable for your Little to get to know the people who are important to you. Keep in mind that if you’re spending lots of time with others, your Little may begin to feel jealous or neglected. The main focus is the friendship you develop with your Little.

Will I become a replacement parent?
No, Littles have a parent or guardian in their life already. What they need is a Big to spend quality, one-on-one time with.

What if it doesn’t work out?
We do everything in our power to make a match that we think will last. However, we realize that sometimes things come up and situations change. We will attempt to mediate the situation, but if it doesn’t work out, we will end the match. If this happens, your Match Support Specialist will be there to support you every step of the way.